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Why counselling?

Is counselling the right thing for you?


You may already be clear about the benefits of counselling, but if you are not sure whether counselling is the right thing for you, here are some ideas you might like to consider.


Why do people choose to have counselling?

People come to counselling because they want to understand and manage difficult or painful situations. We all struggle at some points in our lives, and finding help is an act of courage that will strengthen you.

  • Maybe you’ve had problems or changes in your life that have left you feeling low, anxious or confused.

  • Perhaps you’ve been through a very difficult experience and now struggle with finding a way forward.

  • Maybe you are struggling with your relationships.

  • Sometimes there may not be a clear problem, but you may feel troubled or confused, or wish things were different.

In all these situations, counselling can help.


What are the sessions like?


If you haven't had counselling before, I would say that this experience is similar to being with someone who listens to you with deep attention and at the same time makes you feel supported. Someone who works alongside you to unravel and understand experiences that are painful or confusing. 

Being truly listened to is an invaluable experience. We can feel very alone when we are hurting, but I know from my work and from my own personal experience that talking to someone who is genuinely interested in us, respects and supports us, is quite special. It helps us feel connected to others and to ourselves; it help us find new ways forward, new ways of living life more fully.

What brings you to counselling may have happened recently, or it may be something that happened in the past and still affects you now. We will explore what you find challenging or painful, and how you can use your resources and courage to find a way forward.

Sometimes we can clarify things by writing things down, drawing, listening to a talk or reading a page of a book. There are many creative ways that can help you express and explore what is going on. 

How is counselling different from talking to a friend?

Counselling is confidential; you can discuss anything that is affecting you. You can talk to a counsellor about yourself in a different way than you might talk to a friend or a relative. Counsellors don’t ‘cure’ you or tell you what you should do; they work with you to help you find ways to feel better.​ As a counsellor I am trained to listen attentively and to help you clarify your thoughts and feelings. 

If you want to find out more about my work, or talk to me about how counselling could be helpful to you, please contact me by phone or email. I'll be happy to talk to you about what would be best for you.

Tel: 07493 591515


For more general information on how counselling can help, you can look at websites of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) or the Counselling Directory – just follow their links below.

Thais Lloyd (Tess)

Registered counsellor, MBACP

Tel: 07493 591515


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